Reblogging NonSociety: Flamer Personality Disorder as a form of Mental Illness

January 6, 2010

Well, this “blog” has been in business for less than 36 hours, and we’re already starting to feel the negativity seeping through our every vein.  We honestly don’t know how you’ve kept it up for so long without having some kind of damaging karmic reaction; maybe you’ve just grown older, sadder, angrier and lonelier — a few more wrinkles on the forehead from frowning at your computer screen at “the horror, the horror”?

Anyway, “Onwards!” in RBNS parlance.  A cursory glance at the comments on Reblogging NonSociety as well as the reactions on this “blog” have lead us to some eye opening conclusions about Julia’s hate-fan readership.  We’ll categorize (parse?) just a few of them (of course, you’ll have to excuse our writing, as English is only our third language):

  • Name Callers

This is pretty self-explanatory, is it not?:  For instance, anonymously referring to someone’s personal appearance as resembling that of a “donkey-face”.  Have you ever called someone a donkey-face in person (and not in jest) and if so, how old were you?  This is a completely serious question.

Judging from some of the comments/emails we have received — some of which have actually accused us of being “sexist” (Wherever would you even get that from?  This “blog” is applicable to all walks of  sentient life, cats and humans alike) — it occurred to us that no one is immune to this form of personal insult, or perceived insult.

But let’s think about the “sexism” issue a bit further:  some of you consider yourselves feminists, yet you’ve set about to form a blog and comment ad nauseum on Julia Allison’s personal appearance, and also nitpick not only every facet of her life, but those of the other two knuckleheads that comprise NonSociety.  Also, this?  Now, they may not exactly be the best female role models for our children, or the greatest pillars of society, for that matter, but how is it that what you’re doing is really any better?  Do you actually believe your feminist foremothers and forefathers would be proud of your behavior?

  • Amoral

Insults, verbal abuse, character attacks, and even threats are perfectly acceptable behavior, once “justified”.  Zero empathy, Zero compassion: totally blind to the effect that your behavior may bring to others. Sometimes, we grow up in a world without love, and thus, love has no place in our mental toolkit. We may even have a bit of a psychopath streak, where the very existence of other “feeling beings” is not really real to us. If others have a tiny sensitivity to another’s feelings, we crush it with words like: “She deserved it!”, or, “She/they started it!”  or, “You’re just a sympathizer!” OR “you must be her/them writing under pretense!”  If one were to honestly complain to many of the RBNS flamers, an expected response is “Oh, you’re so sensitive!” or “You take yourselves too seriously!” (which indeed, we do not take ourselves seriously here at Reblogging Reblogging NonSociety, if it is not apparent from our masthead).

  • Vengeful

Once a perceived insult has been received, it becomes perfectly acceptable to return the insult, or even to embark on a longrunning insult stream – indeed, it is even required, since any damage to our self-image is painful and needs to be promptly remedied.  An extremely fascinating example is the number of comments accusing us of being “boring”, when we neither claim not to be boring nor do we see anything of great interest in most of your comments in the first place.

  • Deceitful

There is nothing wrong with deception and distortion so long as we’re not caught.  Hence, writing anonymously on the internet provides ample opportunity to unleash your negativity in a safe and effective manner, over, say, calling your boss a douchebag to his face or punching the person who stole your place in line at the supermarket or the guy (or GIRL) who rejected you.

  • Narcissistic

This is evident from extreme vanity, taking the form of an exquisite sensitivity to anything which even slightly resembles an insult.  Even the smallest perceived insult must be responded to, and is usually deflected by changing the topic altogether. Whenever a Narcissistic Flamer is in danger of losing an argument on the internet, he/she tends to slip into an intellectually dishonest or even disturbingly “brain damaged” style of reasoning which tends to create feelings of confusion or even nausea on the part of onlookers.  It’s like looking on the naked face of genuine insanity.

  • Paranoid

How many of you have already attempted to discern our identity/location?

  • Self-blind

An inability to see our own mistakes no matter how obvious they are to others, and as a result we often act like superior and perfect beings who are surrounded by contemptible inferiors. A capsule description of the Flamer Personality Disorder could be “haughty superior arrogance” or “smug sneering contempt” towards others.  Of course, arguably, it’s not really blindness when we’re such experts at keeping our eyes tightly shut, is it?

  • Hypocritical

“When I do it, it’s a pure and justifiable deed, but when you do exactly the same thing, it’s a shameful and disgusting ploy.”  We at Reblogging Reblogging NonSociety do not deny that we are engaging in a similar level of hypocrisy as you fine folks of Rebogging NonSociety are, but we will not take this site seriously, launch direct, personal insults regarding others’ appearances, or continue this “blog” for 8 months or longer.  We’ve got stuff to do and this negativity is a little too much, to be honest.

  • Self-important

Hosting/commenting on a blog for 8+ months aimed at parsing, ad naseum, every single blog post/Twitter-Tweet/YouTube or Vimeo video of three individuals makes you seem a little egocentric.  Where, O where  has the humility gone?  And what of your flaws?  Sufferers of Flamer Personality Disorder appear to think of themselves as spotless, as though others have flaws that must be pointed out in great detail, but if someone does the same back, they react viciously, criticizing others harshly or even subtly, becoming defensive over even the smallest perceived criticism, and never apologize.  Yet for some reason, self-approval must come from elsewhere, i.e. other nameless figures on the internet.

  • Denying/Projecting

We at Reblogging Reblogging NonSociety aim to promote a healthier lifestyle and to omit negativity from people’s lives, as well as our own.  To that end, we’ve added categories such as Exercise, Dating, Fresh Air, Getting Out of the House, Real Friends, Introspection and Weight Loss to this site.  To the extent that you think this means we think you’re fat and friendless, that is your issue, not ours.

  • Pervasive, long-standing, intense symptoms

Seriously, 8+ months of this nonsense?

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A Life Changing Announcement From Reblogging Reblogging NonSociety

January 5, 2010

For those lucky enough to have stumbled upon this incredible internet gem and opted to spew your negative comments here, we’d like you to know that we:

  1. are NOT Julia Allison et alia;
  2. are NOT fans of Julia Allison et alia; and
  3. spend maybe three minutes per post here because we prefer real life over that of the internet.  We suggest you do the same.

With Nothing Going On In the Immediate Future, Reblogging NonSociety Posts Random Julia Allison Videos

January 5, 2010

What better way to spend a sunny Tuesday afternoon than re-posting random Vimeo videos of Julia Allison from her Sony shoot? It’s not as though it says anything about your personality when you spend a large portion of your time — does over one year count?  – nitpicking Julia Allison’s life.  No, it doesn’t make you look sad or vapid or ignorant of the total irony of a blog — the purpose of which is to fully discredit Julia Allison and her online presence — by having a blog about her and giving her the very thing she so desperately craves:  ATTENTION.

In fact, from an outsider’s perspective, Reblogging NonSociety is so meta that one might think it was created by Julia Allison herself to further promote her presence in life.

But what do we know?  We are just some fine folks who like to get fresh air, even in the depths of winter when the days are short and the temperatures cool.

Deep Thoughts By Reblogging NonSociety

January 5, 2010

While some may think I’m being truculent by calling Julia Allison a donkey, I’m actually only stating fact, because she is a donkey.

And if Julia Allison were to move, then what?

January 5, 2010

I don’t know who this is, but he did post an interesting tidbit. Formspringis starting to become really interesting.

Give me some thoughts on Julia Allison or the year for Nonsociety. Or both. Or on Reblogging Nonsociety.

I think the most interesting thing about Julia Allison is actually Julia Allison, the person.

I mean: not the perception, not the way she is in social settings, not how she interacts with people. (Was it Mohney who called her “disarming”? That’s the perfect word for her.) I mean: actually talking to her, you see someone who is painfully self-aware, understands perfectly how she’s perceived, and yet deeply wants to be liked. It’s sad, because she’s similar to so many people that I know, just a tinch more extreme in certain areas.

I honestly get sad every time I talk to her. She’s a Balzac character come to life.

(Don’t mistake this as suggesting you should feel sympathy, because I could care less. And I think people generally deserve the reputation they project, and if they fuck up, they are the only ones to blame. Like, FOR INSTANCE, if someone were asked to be profiled by a newspaper, and they said a bunch of retarded things, it’s their own damn fault!)

When I saw her at Sklar’s party, I immediately asked what she’s been up to. “Trying to get out of town,” she said.

So yeah, Julia the person is pretty interesting to me; Julia the show, isn’t. And yes, disentangling these is impossible — and that impossibility is what somehow makes her compelling/hated.

Also: I read neither Nonsociety nor Reblogging Julia. I don’t understand how people can have such distaste for something that’s so easy to ignore. Do people cruise the upper channels of their cable dial looking for shows on Lifetime to bitch about on their blog? Why is it that everything on the internet makes people think it’s WRITTEN JUST FOR THEM? Every other medium understands the idea of segmented audience.

(Cross-reference this with Spiers’ chatter lately about “engaging” culture with “meanness.” There’s something very interesting there that explains so much, so quickly. But oooooh, so complex, right?)

Eh, people have their opinions. I will say that I believe most of the people read here not because of Julia, but because they enjoy the commenting community, but that may just be me.

I just thought it was interesting that Julia is bouncing around New York saying she’s leaving.

Whatever will happen to the world of snarkiness and people feeling so lousy about themselves that they feel the need to anonymously nitpick every single detail of strangers’ lives on the internet — if Julia Allison were to leave New York?  Or perhaps said individuals are just so bored with their lives that anonymous commenting seems the best idea to them, over, say, going outside, interacting with people IRL, forming real interpersonal relationships existing beyond a computer screen, or exercising?

Would the world end?  Will civilization collapse?  Or has it already collapsed with the culmination of insecurity and anonymous blogs?  Stay tuned…

Fresh Air > Insults

January 4, 2010


Jordan Reid, who so does read here, would like all you bitches to get off her back because she uses garlic salt or whatever you people were complaining about.

Me and My Cooking

You know how I write a lot about food? Post a lot of recipes?Early on in this Lifecast, I addressed the issue of what exactly my attitude is towards cooking and cheffery in general, but I think it bears repeating.

I am SO TOTALLY not a professional in the kitchen, and I harbor no illusions about this fact. I got interested in cooking when I was about 13, read cookbooks front-to-back as if they’re novels, and try to make cool stuff for dinner as often as I can…and that’s it, really. I have lots of friends who run circles around me in the kitchen (here’s one of them), and if you ask me how to cook a duck, I’m going to run straight to Epicurious. But I love food, and I love playing with it, and I REALLY love writing about it…and I love telling you about things that I love.

I wrote this awhile back, in a post reviewing David Kamp’sThe United States of Arugula:

“Facility with knives and pots is no prerequisite to genuinely enjoying food, and to being experimental with your tastebuds. I, for example, cook with cookbooks. I can’t go into a supermarket, grab random ingredients off the shelves, and whip something amazing up based purely on the knowledge bank stored in my head. But do I think that invalidates my interest in food and cooking? Not in the slightest.”

Why do I feel like it’s OK for me to write about food and cooking, even though I never went to culinary school and I still have to cook with computer close at hand, because I always forget how to do something or other? Because I think that food is fun. Cooking is fun.

And if you’re new in the kitchen, or just not quite an expert, lots of people will try to make you feel like you don’t belong there (“no, no…you’re doing it all wrong, oh, just let me show you”), and that makes me sad. You do belong in the kitchen. Everyone does! So go ahead: play with flour, try mixing pickles with pasta, maybe even burn your potatoes once in awhile: it’s not rocket science, it’s eating…and it’s supposed to make you happy.

You know what? I’m inclined to agree with her, only because if this is the most offensive thing we can come up with about Jordan, then, well, good for her.

Although, I do agree with the fact that, while NonSociety purports that they are experts in their particular niches, they are not experts in anything. Jordan is like any other housewife. I really don’t know what it is about her domestic bliss that is done so differently, but that’s really not her fault. It’s the fault of the business model that Julia and Meghan have created. Jordan is just doing her thing. She herself isn’t claiming she’s an expert, and I frankly find her pretty inoffensive.

At least Jordan is not a narcissistic donkey who hops on planes in her sweaty velour sweats and thinks she’s awesome. And at least she’s not Meghan, because Meghan is dumb.

January is generally a time for reflection.  It’s a time for looking back at what and who we were during the year prior, the lives we’ve touched and those we’ve ruined or tried to ruin, and it’s a time for us to assess our hopes and dreams and failures.  It’s a time for looking inward into the void in which we find ourselves, in the hopes of finding a personality, warmth and maybe even the remnants of a soul.

It’s also a time to assess whether we ought to just go outside and get some exercise and fresh air, or even better, meet some people in person over a cup of tea or a beer.  There are few things better than having real friends in real life who we can experience in real time.  And anyhow, parents generally appreciate it when we leave the basement for a good hour or so.  Closing the laptop or shutting down the computer for an afternoon does wonders for the body and the *cough* soul.

Moreover, nitpicking the details of someone else’s every single move on the internet to make ourselves feel better about our own silly lives is objectively sad and rather pathetic.


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